"You have changed a lot."
"You are not the same JBwe know / we were with in school/college."
I get these comments now and then – from my friends and relatives. Probably, most of us get these firings.
I feel that change is common to human and it is required. Unless we improve with the times, we adapt ourselves to the situations and environment, how can we move on (I don’t want to use “succeed” as success is a relative term and conveys different meanings depending on the various parameters).
I hate shoes – was reluctant to wear them in the school. Now, not only I wear them for 9 -15 hours a day, but have also started wearing casual shoes outside the office.
Loud pop music irritates me – learnt to bear it.
As long as I do not change myself in a negative way (read, in a way not acceptable to myself – am not bothered about others) and if the change brings a change to my life, I like to change.
Wednesday, June 06, 2007
Monday, June 04, 2007
Helping Minds!
Where? General compartment in a Train (No need to describe)
When? Hot summer Saturday morning (around 45o C)
What?
Scene1:
The train stopped at a station. Two rich-class young women got into the compartment (Since it is a day-train, all are general compartments except for a single AC bogie). One of them had a baby in her arms.
They looked around, crossed my coupe and moved to the next one. I intended to rise, but a generous young man in the next one stood up for them.
The journey resumed.
Scene 2:
The train reached next station. A family with two old persons got in. I offered mine and they shared it. A couple with 3 kids also boarded. They went to the next coupe. The husband asked the woman in the previous scene to adjust for the wife.
They were reluctant to move. Words were exchanged and finally, she got a half-seat. The husband kept two kids in her lap and the elder girl was offered some place by another person.
We moved on.
Scene 3:
Two persons in that coupe got down. The husband and wife occupied those 2 seats.
Again, two old men got in.
The couple as well as the rich women was not good enough to offer them some space.
What a quick change in the mindset of these people. Many people are eager to receive help, but become rigid when it comes to offer some.
Youth with enough vigor like us should look forward to offer seats to the old and the weak, even when they don't mind to pay back.
Friday, May 11, 2007
The Emotional Dilemma
The world is full of emotions. No person can be an exception to it. Generally, the state of being ‘emotional’ is considered only in negative contexts - when the person bursts into tears easily, when in deep sorrow, when highly or ill-tempered. On some rare occasions, a person who is extremely happy may also be termed as an in ‘high emotions’.
But, for me sadness and happiness don’t complete the set of emotions. An emotion is a feeling we express at a particular instant – it can be love, hatred, joy, pity, passion. It is something that comes naturally, may not be controllable.
Do we need to control our emotions?
The answer depends on the situation.
When I see –
- The never ending sagas on the bulletin boards/blogs/hate communities – North Indian vs. South Indian, Sachin vs Sourav vs Dravid vs Others, Localites vs Non-locals
- A car/bike rider honking on my back in a traffic jam showing his/her (even female riders do) restlessness (this is also an emotion) though he/she knows I can’t move mine even an inch ahead
- A father killing his son, a son killing his family,
- During Shaan’s concert in my company, girls, even oblivious of higher officials and other surroundings, became too emotional and tried to outwit one another to have just a hand touch with their demi-god and similar things,
I laugh myself.
Of course, I am not an exception to emotions -
I become tense when watching close cricket matches,
When somebody constantly nags me or irritates me with his/her behavior.
I don’t control my positive emotions and release them so that I can share them with my dear ones.
I like to control my negative emotions and emit them when I am alone. Sometimes, I share them with my dearest of dear if I think I am not transferring them.
If people can control their negative emotions, the world will be relived from at least half of its problems.
But, for me sadness and happiness don’t complete the set of emotions. An emotion is a feeling we express at a particular instant – it can be love, hatred, joy, pity, passion. It is something that comes naturally, may not be controllable.
Do we need to control our emotions?
The answer depends on the situation.
When I see –
- The never ending sagas on the bulletin boards/blogs/hate communities – North Indian vs. South Indian, Sachin vs Sourav vs Dravid vs Others, Localites vs Non-locals
- A car/bike rider honking on my back in a traffic jam showing his/her (even female riders do) restlessness (this is also an emotion) though he/she knows I can’t move mine even an inch ahead
- A father killing his son, a son killing his family,
- During Shaan’s concert in my company, girls, even oblivious of higher officials and other surroundings, became too emotional and tried to outwit one another to have just a hand touch with their demi-god and similar things,
I laugh myself.
Of course, I am not an exception to emotions -
I become tense when watching close cricket matches,
When somebody constantly nags me or irritates me with his/her behavior.
I don’t control my positive emotions and release them so that I can share them with my dear ones.
I like to control my negative emotions and emit them when I am alone. Sometimes, I share them with my dearest of dear if I think I am not transferring them.
If people can control their negative emotions, the world will be relived from at least half of its problems.
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